Hospice, Cemetery and Family

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30 October 2017

Just a quick update, Julie began hospice care on Friday, and she will be able to continue her IV nutrition as long as she wants.  She will probably continue it until she becomes too delirious to make decisions and to have meaningful interactions.  She understands that at that time, I will stop it for her.   I don’t think she will decide to stop it before then,  despite what she is going through.

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4th of July 5K, 2009

Almost all of our children were here this weekend. I got Julie to come to church with us, and we sat together and watched our son Nathaniel bless the sacrament, and our son Christopher bring it to us.   All weekend the older children once again got to see and talk to their mama.  Heidi helped her with her make up, massaged  her legs and painted her nails.   It was an important visit for them, and they left in peace.

IMG_1841Julie had an appointment at the Teton Cancer Institute today, probably for the last time.    Her oncologist told her that going to Houston for more PRRT  treatments is probably no longer an option.   Those treatments probably won’t help enough and she might not survive another treatment.   This is what we suspected,  no real news,  but when we got out to the car, she still sobbed, “Well, this is it,  I am going to die.”   She was so sad.  Her face showed the contortions of heartbreak and anguish.   I got as close as I could in our truck,  I just wanted to squeeze her so hard, but that would break her bones.   Instead I just had to tell her  how much I’d like to squeeze her.

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Leaving to have her last baby

After some gentle words we drove around together for the rest of the afternoon and evening.  While I took care of errands she wanted to stay with me and ride shotgun,  rather than go back to bed.   Among other things, we drove to look at a cemetery, where she and I would lie together someday.   She seemed to like it and was interested to see recent headstones of friends buried there also too soon.  It seemed strangely comforting for her I think.

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Goblin Valley, March 2015

I doubt I will be writing again soon.   I really don’t know how long this will last, while she gets IV  nutrition.  I asked her if she wanted to survive through the holidays.   She said, “No that really doesn’t matter.”   There is nothing really holding her back now,  except family.   When the time comes, I think she will be ready.

16 thoughts on “Hospice, Cemetery and Family

  1. Brad, you and Julie and your family has been in my constant prayers especially these last few months!!! I put your names in the temple everytime I’m there… I pray for your family to have comfort and peace and to be wrapped in the Saviors love at this time!!!! I love you all so do much!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

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  2. Brad, you and Julie and your family have been in my constant prayers especially these last few months!!! I put your names in the temple everytime I’m there… I pray for your family to have comfort and peace and to be wrapped in the Saviors love at this time!!!! I love you all so so much!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

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  3. Oh Brad, our hearts are aching with yours! We love you and your sweet Julie. Our lives are blessed and better for having known and served with her.❤

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  4. Julie’s courage in fighting this battle amazes me. And your familiy’s courage in supporting her is a true testament of the love and power of families. We will continue to pray for peace and comfort for her–and for each of you!
    Kim and Darin

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  5. Please know that you and your family have been in my prayers and on my heart everyday. I love your family and will continue to pray for peace, comfort and strength.

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  6. We, too, keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. We pray that the Lord will continue to support and strengthen and comfort you.

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  7. Dear sweet, beautiful Julie – As a friend and classmate in our younger years, I am so thankful to know you. As we have ‘grown up’, you are one of the strongest, most courageous, and graceful women that I have known! Much love, hugs, peace and prayers for you… also to Brad, your children and family!

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